How does the chain of connections start? Well, Connections.Media picks someone we feel drawn to hold space for. Like anything, it is a feeling in your gut, something you just have to reach out and begin. Then we follow the journey from there, as one person picks the next, based on the conversation that took place on that day, in that moment. After 5 conversations a theme reveals itself, and a chain is complete.
Follow this theme of "UNDERSTANDING"
Town of Birth: Beloit, Wisconsin
Occupation/Job/Life Purpose Work: HVAC Technician/ Server/ Event Planner
“Avoiding failure is self-sabotage, and THE reason you won't succeed. You tell yourself you probably don't want to do something because in some aspects you're going to fail, so you might as well just not pick it up at all and just stay safe. ‘Don’t do this: Just avoid any failure or any negative emotions, just don’t feel them ever. They're bad and you don't EVER want to feel those. And so when you do feel them, don't feel them. Don't - push them down!’
That’s where the failure begins. It begins with not allowing the feelings.”
I think she believes I'm super spiritual and good at communicating. And that I am very real in how I present myself.
“I've always had moments where I’ve gotten motivated... where I started journaling, and decided to figure out what I needed to do. I wanted to start reading more. I wanted to start doing open meditation. I wanted to start eating right. I wanted to start going to the gym. Then, I did it for a week or two, and kind of tapered off. While I was packing to move, I found six notebooks that said the same exact thing. I was like, ‘Oh do ya think there's a pattern here or something?’”
Zachary Kicker’s most noticeable attribute is his authenticity. You can hear the smile in his voice, as well as the sincerity, and in most cases, that sincerity expresses itself through his genuine desire to inspire other people.
He recently had an awakening of sorts – a realization that his life could be whatever he made of it if he took the reins and steered it in the right direction. He put that realization into action, cutting the practices and people who were bringing him down, and clearing room for growth and happiness. The effects of this change were so positive and life-altering that he now wants to share it with other people.
Kicker wants to help people think deeper about their lives, their desires, their goals, and their motivations. He wants to inspire them to see their vast opportunities beyond the status quo, and recognize the power they have in changing their destinies.
“Why do people think they're just going to be Buddah off the rip? Or Gandhi? They weren't just self-actualized in that moment. They’d been working on that for so long.
That’s pretty much your life's purpose - what you are here to do is FIND yourself. We must work on deconstructing the old person that we made in our head. The essence of you has pretty much always been there. You've always been you to begin with.”
The MFCEO by Andy Frisella
Do you believe that everyone has a soulmate? If so, do you think you know or will know who yours is?
I believe that we have multiple soulmates, that are here to help us complete our soul's purpose. And I think I've met one or 2, only time will tell though. People tend to think it's only restricted to who you're supposed to marry or date.
You are going to spend a day reflecting upon life, in the Charleston area, where are you, and what are you doing?
I am on Folly Beach, I am listening to music, spinning my poi, and writing my reflections down so I can organize my thoughts better.
Have you ever had a moment that surprised you in the best way possible, what was it?
Realizing that I cause a lot of my own issues and I can change it all.
How difficult is it to actively live an intentional/ purposeful life?
Honestly I think it is probably one of the greatest challenges in life, but easily the most rewarding. You try and find yourself and by the time you've found out why you are the way you are, you've already changed again. Then everything else has changed around you and you have to redefine yourself (or define consciously for the first time) and what you stand for. It’s mostly difficult because you want things to happen in your own sort of time and are so discouraged by failure, so we lose faith in our ability to determine our intent and purpose, or if that little voice in our heads actually has any clue what's going on.
“The education system is geared towards rationality and logical thinking. In school, we're not taught how to sit and be, or take breaks or anything - we just have 13 years of things being thrown at your face. Then at 18, you are cut off. You just have to go off what you have been taught, and everything they’ve told you that you should do in order to be successful - whether or not that’s what success means to you.
At this point in life, you're going through a lot of transformative things finding WHO you are, with a ton of distractions and lots of pretending you already have it figured out. There is more thinking about who you are, than feeling who you are. So, you try to gain acceptance with the least amount of friction. We don't want to go against the grain.
The only choice at that point is going by what people have taught you, or choosing your own path. If choose your own path and make mistakes and try and learn from those mistakes, then that's what starts to get you more in touch, because you're listening to yourself. But people are so deathly afraid of failure, that they avoid it at any cost. That's why safety seems so nice.
I had a friend back home and he had just finished his four year bachelor in psychology and we're sitting there having a beer and he's like, ‘I got out and I just want to be a firefighter now. So now I have like $100,000 in student debt that I have to pay off on a firefighter salary now.’
This idea that straight out of high school you probably should go to college and get all this student debt, and then some career - it’s not necessarily what people need in the long run. This age is so crucial to make personal mistakes, and fail, and learn, and find out who you really are, but most of us don’t get the chance to do that.”
Danny (Daniel Huskey). There is nobody else I've met in Charleston that I am completely engrossed with, both mind and soul, than that man. Every interaction is full of authenticity, purpose, and forward thinking. I love it and him.
“I feel like a lot of people are misled by what they think they're supposed to do or what society thinks they should be doing. A lot of people really clamp down, or set aside their passions. I've caught myself doing it within like the past few years too. That's WHY I'm really trying hard to keep off autopilot. I ask myself “Are you living?”
Editor in Chief: Becca Finley
Article: Caralie Byrnes
Photos: Caitlin Billard
Stay tuned for the ‘Connections’ book coming out January 22, complete with all 55 Connections, and how they fit into the Charleston community. Brand new pics + quotes.