How does the chain of connections start? Well, Connections.Media picks someone we feel drawn to hold space for. Like anything, it is a feeling in your gut, something you just have to reach out and begin. Then we follow the journey from there, as one person picks the next, based on the conversation that took place on that day, in that moment. After 5 conversations a theme reveals itself, and a chain is complete.
Follow this theme of "UNDERSTANDING"
Town of Birth: Charleston, SC
Occupation/Job/Life Purpose Work: Child Care and Pet Care
“I’ve always been surrounded by people that have made sure that I’m okay. I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety a lot in the past. I get very anxious when I feel uncomfortable or when I feel like I am in a situation where I’m not safe. I clam up and I get antsy.
Because of this, I don’t ever want to tell someone, ‘no I can’t do that for you because I’m busy doing this for me instead.’ I know nothing is really WRONG with that, but it feels like it’s wrong, because everybody’s supposed to come before me.”
Because she loves me and is always looking for ways to help me expand my knowledge on life.
“It’s very hard to watch stuff happen to kids and not say something. You’re looking at them, and you can see their older faces in the future, and you see they’re not going to make it. They’re not going to make it in society because their parents didn’t know how to teach them the skills to do it.
I think sometimes parents expect their children to act grown up too early because they don’t want to be the parent anymore. Or they never were taught how to be a parent. If you don’t know how to do it, and if you’re not taking initiative to actually learn how to break the cycle of abusive or neglectful parenting, then you’re not going to be able to do it.
And, you can’t just expect someone to be different, when you weren’t taught different. You can’t just expect to be the same person your daddy raised you to be, when your daddy didn’t know how to raise you in the first place. You have to want it, you have to work for it, you have to change.”
Ravenel Horres balances on the edge of a breakthrough. She has had more than her fair share of problems in the past, facing anxiety and depression, bullying in school, and the recent deaths of her beloved grandpa and aunt.
However, she has turned a corner towards self-help and positivity. She works at a daycare and a pet groomer, two care-taking jobs that help fill her strong inclination to look after others, and she has begun to seriously consider her future – whether that means staying in Charleston or getting a fresh start in a new place.
She still has a bit more pushing to go, but a note of strength rings out in her voice behind the uncertainty. With her strong Christian faith by her side to guide her, she has realized that she DESERVES to reach her dreams, and she is beginning the path towards achieving them.
“Everything’s always been up in the air for me. I dropped out of high school. I was bullied really badly and ended up doing homeschooling. I dropped out of that because to learn I needed the student-teacher classroom environment that neither of my parents could give me. I got my reading portion of the GED test done. But, I haven’t gone any further with it because I SCARED myself. I was like, “Oh my gosh, after this is over my life has to start!” and that scared me. But, I’m getting closer. I’ve gotten a job. And I am starting to try to get things figured out.”
What would be the title and duties of your dream job?
Cosmetologist. Making people’s hair dreams become reality. And then talking, and walking people through their struggles in life, in my chair.
Where is your place of bliss?
My Grandparents house.
When does time pass fastest for you and when does it pass the slowest?
Time passes fastest when I am busy at work and slowest when I am at home with nothing to do.
Looking back on your life, what have you done that has given you the most satisfaction?
Overcoming all my struggles with being bullied and beat down, and knowing that my life is a gift. I’m meant to be here.
Is there a certain prayer you say to help get you out of a depressed state?
There is no certain prayer I say, I just talk to God because he is my best friend. I trust that if I leave my problems in his hands; he will set things right in HIS time.
“I would rather stand with God & be judged by the world, than stand with the world & be judged by God.” This has a very special place in my heart because it means that no matter what, I would rather do what is morally right by God, than to do what is morally right by the world. God loved us so much that he sent his son to die on a cross so that we could be saved from our sins. I owe him everything for that sacrifice. I don't care how much trouble the world causes me; I will always stand by my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Because Everything I am, everything I have been, and everything I will ever be, is because God chose to give me the gift of life.”
Zachary Kicker. I thought he would enjoy this experience.
“I rely on God to give me the strength to get myself up and actually do things with my life. I just pray about it. Sometimes though, I stew a little bit, and I don’t realize it. Then I realize I am always sleeping. That’s when I know “I’m depressed, I need to get myself out of this.”
So, I just take time to pray, and read my bible, and figure out how to get myself out of it. That’s my tool...it is God. I feel like he puts people in your life that you need for certain lessons, and sometimes you’ve just got to listen to what you do, and sometimes don’t, want to hear.”
Editor in Chief: Becca Finley
Article: Caralie Byrnes
Photos: Caitlin Billard
Stay tuned for the ‘Connections’ book coming out January 22, complete with all 55 Connections, and how they fit into the Charleston community. Brand new pics + quotes.